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    How to Cope with a Natural Hair Setback When You Feel Discouraged

    January 11, 2019September 19, 2019

    I have never experienced significant hair loss in my entire life. Clearly, life laughed at me and it finally happened.  I had my first major natural hair setback that was

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    One of my best friends told me that when we are in One of my best friends told me that when we are in a season of opposition, we must remember to finish the season strong. This year has been difficult in many ways, but overall, I'm doing my best to stay the course. The enemy will do anything to throw me off of my game, but I'm so glad to have Jesus on my team. With that being said, I am praying for December to end on a strong note. 🤎⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ P.S. I've had adult braces for a whole week now, and although I'm still adjusting, I absolutely love them 😄 I'm going to miss my gap, but I look forward to having the smile I've always wanted!
    Last December, God told me that my word for 2020 w Last December, God told me that my word for 2020 would be "abundance." And earlier this month, I exceeded my first savings goal of $10,000 in less than year! 💛⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ It's amazing how the Lord allows seasons of lack to prepare us for a fruitful harvest. And how He knows exactly what trials I need to overcome to get me to where I need to be. ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ I often think about the lesson in the Parable of the Talents in Matthew 25: "He who is faithful in a very little thing is faithful also in much." Last year, I was unemployed and unable to truly provide for myself. I had $0 in savings and barely any cash on hand. ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ The season that I was in was alienating and extremely lonely. However, it forced me to enter a quiet place so that I could draw closer to Him. And in that season, I also learned how to budget and to live well below my means. I realized what mattered and what didn't. Not just financially, but in other areas of my life as well. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ I used my experience last year to prepare for 2020. I can say that now I can comfortably budget, save, and still tithe each month. I was still able to pay down some debt early and cover the tuition for my last semester of graduate school with my own money. This is all a testament to the goodness of God. And I shared it all in my new blog post! ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ “Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us,  to Him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus to all generations, forever and ever. Amen.” Ephesians 3:20-21 (ESV)
    Note to self: It's okay to pivot when you need to! Note to self: It's okay to pivot when you need to!⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ 🌱 At age 27, I'm currently saving to move out comfortably whenever God tells me it's "time". Not having your own place as an adult is hard-- but I'm learning that God's timing is always perfect. My goal is to set aside at least $10K by the time I move out. I'm 80% there in just 8 months.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ 🌱 If you watch my stories, you know that I was doing the #75hard challenge. It was going very well. But... I didn't finish. I was halfway through and life happened. 🥴 I really needed to listen to my body and tend to my mental health. And I didn't fail. I developed some amazing new habits along the way. Perspective is key. ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ 🌱 Now for the big one: After four years, I am no longer a vegan. I'm cool with it as it's a very personal decision I spent a year making. I've been slowly introducing fish and poultry into my diet over the past year, and I honestly couldn't be any happier. I still eat a mostly plant-based diet, just not with the "vegan" label. Being vegan became a huge part of my identity, and I spent some time un-learning this over 13 months. Long story short, but my identity is rooted in Christ and not in the type of food I eat. It's not to say that I would never consider doing it again. But right now, I'm good. I'm still healthy. I'm still a wonderful cook lol. & I'm still thriving (in more ways than one). ☺️
    Earlier this week, I wrote an honest letter to my Earlier this week, I wrote an honest letter to my younger myself and shared it on my blog today. In my letter, I realize that I still hold onto deep childhood wounds. ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ One wound being that I experience patterns of loneliness that sends me spiraling into bouts of very deep depression. 2020 has been a year of exposure, and I'm being forced to face my personal struggles. I have always attached so much shame to being an anxious adult and also as someone never having many deep friendships growing up. We rarely talk about how lonely and alienating your 20s can be. ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ I am proud of myself for acknowledging this and seeking healthy ways to un-learn, relearn, and to grow. If you're someone like me who is still healing from childhood wounds, everything you feel is valid. We never know the kind of trauma or experiences that contribute to how we respond as we get older. When the mind forgets, the body still remembers. So I feel encouraged today. I recognize that I am not bruised or broken; but that I can be whole and fully healed. 💛
    Well, this boat cruise was interesting. At one poi Well, this boat cruise was interesting. At one point, it got extremely windy. The Southern humidity eventually won the battle with my hair and the wind got the best of my dress. Shoutout to Manny for holding the bottom of my dress down numerous times when the wind tried to disrespect me. 😂🥴⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ Even though I was definitely embarrassed by that, I am thankful for the much needed laughter. And the realization that I was not the only woman on the boat struggling with her outfit. It still made for a great experience and memory with my love. 🤎
    The past 11 months have been the most consistent I The past 11 months have been the most consistent I've been in my weightlifting journey. It's been fun for me. And I've enjoyed seeing the fruits of my labor. My time spent at the gym has also been teaching me an important lesson lately: comparison is the thief of joy. ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ I used to dread showing up at the gym to avoid feeling inadequate, the fear of looking silly or feeling so far behind compared to other women I'd see around me. But comparison (and the anxiety it creates) can show up in other areas of our lives. This is a gentle reminder to not occupy lanes that you aren't meant to fill. Focus on the one(s) that God specifically created for you. 🤎
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