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    Letting Go of Toxic Hustle Culture

    April 13, 2020April 16, 2020

    It’s easy to get sucked into Millenial hustle culture. And I’m finding that it’s being pushed during this Coronavirus (COVID-19) pandemic. The Holy Spirit has been nudging me to rest

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  • Wellness

    5 Tips to Overcome Emotional Eating

    March 23, 2020April 17, 2020

    Although I haven’t engaged in emotional eating in several years, I understand the toll that it can have on someone. I have not always had the best relationship with food.

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  • Wellness

    6 Signs You Need a Social Media Break

    November 1, 2019November 2, 2019

    Through the month of October, I took yet another social media break. This was my longest one yet this year and very intentional. I made sure to delete Instagram specifically

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  • Faith

    Breaking Soul Ties and Gaining My Freedom

    August 30, 2019April 19, 2020

    Soul ties are powerful and very real, yet they remain a touchy subject. It has taken me many years to get out of toxic soulish connections and to navigate the guilt,

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  • Wellness

    Dealing with Post-Grad Depression

    August 5, 2019September 19, 2019

    The short end of this story is that yes, I am currently dealing with post-grad depression. I think it’s important that as a Woman of Color, I am candid in

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  • Beauty

    Why I Only Use Natural Oils and Butters for My Skin

    July 7, 2019September 19, 2019

    A few years ago, I resolved to use only products with natural oils and butters to cleanse and moisturize my skin after realizing how toxic the skincare industry can be.

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    What I Learned From My 14-Day Social Media Fast

    February 28, 2019September 20, 2019

    Some of you might be wondering “where have you been?!” Or thinking something along the lines of “how can you launch a new blog and then just leave us out

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  • Recipes

    Vanilla Turmeric Tea (Golden Milk)

    January 11, 2019September 19, 2019

    So, why do I make turmeric tea and what is it? It all started after learning about Ayurvedic medicine a year and a half ago. I had health setbacks from

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  • Natural Hair

    How to Cope with a Natural Hair Setback When You Feel Discouraged

    January 11, 2019September 19, 2019

    I have never experienced significant hair loss in my entire life. Clearly, life laughed at me and it finally happened.  I had my first major natural hair setback that was

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    Well, this boat cruise was interesting. At one poi Well, this boat cruise was interesting. At one point, it got extremely windy. The Southern humidity eventually won the battle with my hair and the wind got the best of my dress. Shoutout to Manny for holding the bottom of my dress down numerous times when the wind tried to disrespect me. 😂🥴⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ Even though I was definitely embarrassed by that, I am thankful for the much needed laughter. And the realization that I was not the only woman on the boat struggling with her outfit. It still made for a great experience and memory with my love. 🤎
    The past 11 months have been the most consistent I The past 11 months have been the most consistent I've been in my weightlifting journey. It's been fun for me. And I've enjoyed seeing the fruits of my labor. My time spent at the gym has also been teaching me an important lesson lately: comparison is the thief of joy. ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ I used to dread showing up at the gym to avoid feeling inadequate, the fear of looking silly or feeling so far behind compared to other women I'd see around me. But comparison (and the anxiety it creates) can show up in other areas of our lives. This is a gentle reminder to not occupy lanes that you aren't meant to fill. Focus on the one(s) that God specifically created for you. 🤎
    My latest revelation? I am way, way too hard on me My latest revelation? I am way, way too hard on me. Some gentle reminders for myself and anyone needing a few encouraging nuggets: ⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣⁣ 1. Be kind to yourself. You're doing better than you think. ⁣⁣⁣⁣ 2. Someone else's blessings are not the absence of your own. ⁣⁣⁣⁣ 3. The chapter of the life you're in is exactly where God wanted you to be. Your story is still being written, still unfolding. Trust the Author of your story. 🖤⁣ #GodsLovesYou
    Growing up, I internalized racism and self-hatred Growing up, I internalized racism and self-hatred towards my Black hair. These kinks tell a story. ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ My hair used to be a reminder that any trait associated with Blackness was not to be tolerated. As a child and teenager, it was never praised in school or represented fairly in the media. ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ In middle school, a classmate whipped out her ruler to measure my very short ponytail after I told her not to do that. She then went to tell everyone in our class that it was three inches in length. It was difficult to endure those taunts and jeers at 13 years old. So I chose to wear braids for the next four years of my life. ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ During my senior year of high school, I started to wear my natural hair. At the time, I also had the biggest crush on a classmate and shared this with a mutual friend. He told our mutual friend that he didn't want to talk to me "unless she does something about that hair of hers." At first, I was devastated. But then realized I needed to stop internalizing what others thought or said about me. So I wore my natural hair to prom. It was yet another bold statement towards healing and acceptance.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ I am learning that my journey with my natural, kinky hair is one of learning, but also unlearning too. It is a part of my Blackness, which makes it a part of my identity. 🖤
    I have been having a really difficult time trying I have been having a really difficult time trying to articulate how I feel into words. Honestly, I am not the best with them when I'm angry. It's also easy for messages to get lost in translation on a platform like this. Like many others, I am exhausted. And of all the things that I am tired of seeing is "all lives matter."⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ Christians: Crying out "all lives matter" while your Black brothers and sisters bring awareness to their struggle is dismissive. Please acknowledge the pain in knowing that Black lives are treated as disposable. We are called to bear one another's burdens. (Galatians 6:2). Our movement doesn't mean that other lives matter less. ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ For Black people and everyone who wants to do the work of interrupting racism: the message of racism will never be popular, but that's what made Jesus a true leader. He was willing to speak out about injustice when others wanted to silence him. This work is messy. And it's hard. I get that and I am with you. Continue to use your voices and to uplift others. Let us be the example of Jesus Christ.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣ #saytheirnames #georgefloyd #breonnataylor #ahmaudarbery #blm #blacklivesmatter
    TESTIMONY TIME: I have a reason to smile today. I TESTIMONY TIME: I have a reason to smile today. I paid off my first grad school loan in just 2 months. 🥳 ⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣⁣ All while I was tithing and building my emergency fund. This is also the second student loan I've paid in full in 2020. Two student loans down, four more to go! And we're not even halfway through the year yet. ⁣But God.⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣⁣ Last year, I was struggling with my finances. Not because I was bad with money, but because I was bringing in very little income. So I used that season of my life to learn about personal finance and budgeting, and to cultivate a mindset where I could attract wealth. ⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣⁣ That ultimately led me to set a goal for myself to be debt-free within two years (or less). Although my financial situation has changed, I'm still sacrificing now for what I want later. I am choosing to trust the path that God has set for me even if it's not popular. ⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣⁣ P.S. I have a new blog post on my strategies to pay down debt faster & get control over your money. Link is in my bio. ✨
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